He’s not setting out to make money with xkit, and wants to keep it free and without adds. Sending a couple bucks his way (if you can) will help him cover the cost of the servers that keep xkit running. Even if you can’t donate, please pass it on so others know about this opportunity!
have you ever looked a horse in their eyes?? there is absolutely nothing going on in there. no remorse or regret. horses dont have souls and cant be held morally accountable for their earthly sins and this is why i fucking hate horses
“I swear to god I will lose my mind if I hear the “sex sells” fallacy one more time. Sex does not sell. If sex sold, we would see penises where we see boobs. Naked men would be on everything that naked women are on. Sex isn’t what they’re selling you. They’re selling you an impossible, pornographically fueled misogynistic idea of the perfect woman.”—(via menstruate)
“despite the fact that women and nonwhite individuals are more likely to identify as LGBT, regular/recurring LGBT characters on broadcast and cable networks are are 72% and 71% white, respectively, and overwhelmingly male. It seems likely that onscreen representation reflects the demographics of television creators, not of the television audience.”— Autostraddle, GLAAD’s “Where We Are On TV” Shows Best Place To Be On TV Is Behind The Camera (via realtimelord)
“We can’t jump off bridges anymore because our iPhones will get ruined. We can’t take skinny dips in the ocean, because there’s no service on the beach and adventures aren’t real unless they’re on Instagram. Technology has doomed the spontaneity of adventure and we’re helping destroy it every time we Google, check-in, and hashtag.”—
Jeremy Glass, We Can’t Get Lost Anymore
i’m so sick of seeing people trash this generation for no other reason than that things aren’t the way they used to be. there’s this constant vitriolic stream of people snarling that selfies, check-ins and blogs are the death of culture, and i am bored of it.
the human desire to record and document experience is hardly new. without that urge we wouldn’t have art, music, dance, theatre. the world of electronics evolving around that to give us an even broader scope of options to preserve our unique view of the world and share it with others is a beautiful thing. despite a legion of cynical naysayers constantly shouting otherwise, i’ve not actually become immune to earth’s beauty or my own experiences in it. stop being terrified of change and development and calling it profound.
Additionally, I’m not losing my sense of adventure every time I Google something, I’m feeding my thrist for knowledge. I have easy access to the most information that humanity has ever amassed, and you want me to not use that? Because let’s be real, my ancestors who had a “sense of adventure” were actually far more restricted in their travel. I can travel more widely and more cheaply than any point in human history, and you’re trying to imply that my “sense of adventure” has died because of the very technology that has made that possible?
Actually, how about this: my “sense of adventure” is tempered by the responsibilities and anxieties I carry far more than Google or check-ins or hashtags. My “sense of adventure” is tempered by the money I have (or rather don’t have) in my bank account. My “sense of adventure” is tempered by what society has taught me about traveling alone at night. My “sense of adventure” is tempered by the fact that a girl from my high school went on an adventure and ended up murdered, and whose family is still seeking justice because of the negligence of the local police department. My “sense of adventure” is the same as my ancestors’ “sense of adventure,” and it not this nostalgic retelling of history.
And how many of these naysayers have actually taken a trip like Steinbeck or William Least Heat-Moon? How many of them have jumped off a bridge? How many of them feel free to benefit from iPhones and Google and cell service and Instagram, but then criticize younger generations for taking full advantage of the world around them?
We can’t jump off bridges anymore because it’s against laws passed by older generations. We can’t take skinny dips in the ocean because it’s against laws passed by older generations, and adventures aren’t a reality for us because they often cost more money than we have. Technology has made travel more cheap and widespread than ever, and we helped destroy it when we weighed an entire generation down with the responsibilities of another.
Also, if you ever shit on the omnipresence of maps via smartphone or gps device as losing our sense of wandering whateverthefuck, I will personally come vomit in your shoes. I used to be TERRIFIED to drive into a new city or a new part of a city, because what if I got lost? What if I couldn’t find the only street names I knew to get me where I needed to go? Etc. etc. etc. Now? Now I get a bit tense about it, but I’m not scared the way I used to be, because I know that if I get lost all I have to do is pull over, grab my phone, orient myself, plot a new route from where I am, and I’m good to go. If I’m feeling more adventurous or spontaneous, I can wander a bit without checking my map app, but the thing is, when I do that, it’s that I can CHOOSE to be lost now, because I don’t HAVE to be lost. Technology has made me feel safe enough to go on adventures because I now carry a personal lifeline to any information I could possibly need, right there in my pocket.
Also does this dipfuck really think people turn down opportunities to go do fun shit just because they can’t instagram it? Really? Jesus.
For those just joining in: Earlier in the year, I noticed that a bigot named Theodore Beale (aka “Vox Day”) regularly used my name, or nicknames representing me (“McRapey” is a favorite), to whip up readers on his Web sites. Well, there’s nothing I could do about that, and to be honest I think it’s just fine that a bigot has decided that I am the embodiment of everything he isn’t. But I decided if this fellow was going to get mileage off of using my name, I should get mileage off of him using it as well.
We’re now at the end of the year — or close enough to it that people are asking what they tally is so they can plan and make their donations. So I asked my friend for a tally of references Mr. Beale has made to me on two of his sites: his primary one, and the one he has concerned with “game.” With that tally I could then estimate how many more times he’ll mention me by the end of the year.
Why are people so hellbent on shitting on Frozen because of an animation error? I haven't seen it, and it seems like people are hating on it because of a mistake. I didn't see people shit on Toy Story despite its animating mistakes. Or Gladiator. Or Star Wars. Or any other movie with mistakes in it. Why Frozen?
There is a long and complicated list of reasons people are frustrated with Disney’s choices regarding this movie
I’ve been blogging on tumblr for over two months now. There are things I love, like the choice of layouts available and the tagging feature that allows you to search & connect with other tumblr users. But I would prefer commenting that didn’t require you to log in, and don’t like that the…
I don’t know what is right for you as far as a website goes, but if you see your designs uncredited, you should definitely reblog with a caption and link to your etsy! It’s hugely frustrating that people post things without credit, but I think most of the people reblogging it will appreciate having the link available, and would side with you that posting your work without credit isn’t cool.
This week struck me as a particularly exhausting one when it came to that certain brand of provocatively-headlined-but-probably-not-what-you-think-it-is science news that we know and love hate.
As usual, it’s the science media click-machine that’s to…
As a linguist (and woman), my least favorite of these I’ve come across was one purported to explain why women talk more than men. The actual study was done on rats, and found that a protein found in more vocal rats (naturally the males) was found in higher levels in female human children than male human children. Thus explains why grown human women talk more? There’s a noticeable gap in reasoning here.
I’ve never seen any good research that actually suggests that women do talk more than men. I have, on the other hand, read research that says the amount of taking is about equal, though it may occur in different genres/contexts. Few if any news sources cited research for this component of the question, because it is a popular myth — everybody KNOWS women talk more already, who needs it proven?! Those that did cited research that has largely been rejected by the linguistic community.
There’s a study cited in the Cambridge Encyclopedia of Language (can dig up the ref if you’re curious, but cba to fish it out right now) which found that men’s perception of how much women talk in mixed-gender groups is way higher than how much they actually do (which was disproportionately low, relative to how much of the group they were). Which is to say: women don’t talk more than men, they talk more than men want them to.
I was going to link that exact study! But I was on my phone when I wrote this, and couldn’t remember a good way to look it up (searching “women talking study” is not exactly helpful, it turns out), so i decided to keep it simple. Do you have it handy?
LRDs can really suck sometimes :( Since Christmas/New Years fall between now and when you’ll next see him, you could focus some energy into making him a nice present? For me, being focused on something to make my partner happy sometimes helps me feel better. It takes “I’m not going to see him for a month!” and makes it “I’d better hurry if I want to finish this nice thing for him in just a month!”
Hopefully that’s helpful to you. You’re perfectly entitled to feel sad or frustrated with the situation.
Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of continual vigilance about sexual safety. It’s like having a mild case of hay fever that never goes away. It’s not debilitating. You’re not weak. You’re not afraid. You just suck it up and get on with your life. It’s nothing that’s going to stop you from making discoveries, or climbing mountains, or falling in love. Sometimes you can almost forget about it. It doesn’t mean it’s not there, subtly sucking your energy. You learn to avoid situations that make it worse and seek out conditions that make it better.
If a female stranger is wary around you, it is not because she suspects you are a rapist, or that all men are rapists. It’s because a general level of circumspection is what vigilance requires. Don’t take it personally.
If this frustrates you, try to remember that women are blamed for lapsed vigilance. If a woman does get raped, everyone rushes to see where she let her guard down. Was she drinking? Was she alone? Was she wearing a short skirt? Did she go to a strange man’s room for coffee at 4am?
A woman must be seen to be vigilant as well as be vigilant. If she is deemed insufficiently vigilant, she will be at least partly blamed for any sexual violence that befalls her. If she’s regarded as downright reckless, that “evidence” can be used to completely exonerate her rapist. If it comes down to a he said/she said dispute over whether sex was consensual, as so many rape cases do, the dispute becomes a referendum on whether the woman seems like the sort of reckless person who would have sex with a stranger.
If a woman does go back to a strange man’s hotel room at 4am, even if she only wants a coffee and conversation, she’s more or less given him the power to rape her. No jury is going to believe she went up there for anything but sex. So, don’t be surprised if a stranger reacts badly to that suggestion.